Signs of Dating a Narcissist
Trauma & Narcissism Redefined
Caroline Strawson
4.8 • 701 Ratings
🗓️ 24 November 2020
⏱️ 17 minutes
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Summary
Today we talk about the little signs and the red flags that we must be aware of when we start dating someone new. Even after a traumatic separation, at some point we need to start meeting new people, but we must have ears and eyes open to the signs of narcissistic behavior, so we know what to do if they keep happening.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
- How we can step out into the dating world after a traumatic experience
- What is "love bombing" and how to detect it
- A key red flag - the narcissist’s lack of empathy
- Gaslighting as the real hallmark of narcissism
- The "I'm not apologizing" story and why narcissists believe they’re never wrong
- The importance of having a positive relationship with yourself
The dating world after a divorce or a breakup can be terrifying. But it's important to remember that being with someone is not always better than being single. So if we decide to take a new chance, we must have our narcissistic radar on point to avoid falling into that trap.
Resources:
- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the narcissistic abuse recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you |
| 0:09.2 | awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive. |
| 0:16.8 | I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are now and I believe you. |
| 0:21.4 | And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation. |
| 0:30.1 | So narcissistic personality disorder isn't the same as self-confidence or being self-absorbed. When someone posts too many selfies or maybe |
| 0:42.3 | flex their muscles or show them with that, as my daughter says, duck lips doesn't mean that they are |
| 0:50.9 | a narcissist. A true narcissist is an actual mental health conditioned |
| 0:57.1 | characterized by nine traits that are listed in the DSM. And it's really a condition characterized |
| 1:03.8 | by an inflated sense of importance, that deep need for excessive attention and admiration, |
| 1:10.0 | a lack of empathy for others, and they often |
| 1:12.6 | have troubled relationships. So how does that actually work when you step out into the dating |
| 1:19.0 | world again? Maybe you've just got divorced, either from a narcissist or not, and it's a really scary |
| 1:26.5 | world, and I know exactly what that is like. |
| 1:29.5 | When I went through my divorce 10 years ago, the thought of stepping into that dating scene again |
| 1:35.6 | in my late 30s was really, really scary. And I just didn't know where to start. And in fact, |
| 1:43.0 | those of you who read my book will know that I have |
| 1:46.3 | a whole chapter. In fact, I could have written a whole book on online dating, actually. But in the |
| 1:51.2 | chapter in my book, Divorce became my superpower. There's a chapter where I set up my dating profile, |
| 1:57.6 | and I kept getting these messages saying, hey, Milf, now, I'm sure many of you are laughing |
| 2:03.1 | right now, but I did not know what that meant. I mean, how naive was I? How naive was I? I didn't even |
| 2:08.9 | know what Milf was. However, what I will say is when I eventually Googled it after thinking, |
| 2:15.3 | have I got something written down wrong in my profile? When I actually Googled it after thinking, have I got something written down wrong in my profile? |
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