Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from

parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

We talked before about Ron Lieber's clever way of capturing the goal of what we're all trying to do

as parents. The opposite

of spoiled, he writes. He has a great book of the same name, which you carry at the painted porch.

That's what kind of kids you want. That's what success is at this job. You want to raise kids who

aren't entitled, who are self-sufficient, who are decent and kind, part of the solutions and not

the problems of the world and of their generation. Successful or struggling, you want your kids to be

generous with their time, with their money, with their talents. So what's the secret? There isn't one,

except as we have said over and over and over again, except modeling the traits

you'd like to see in them.

If you want generous kids, you have to show them what a generous parent is.

If you want your kid to be a helper, you have to show them what that looks like.

There is no better time than the holiday season to do this.

While other families so easily slip into the temptations of

materialism and gluttony on Thanksgiving and Christmas and New Year's or the countless sales

commemorating them, you can use this time to focus on people who are less fortunate. You can show

them what it means to be a giver by volunteering, by donating, by thinking about what others need

rather than what you want. You can take

your kids with you. You can give them an opportunity to have input to identify a cause or a family

to help. You can and you must be what you want to teach your kids. It will make them better

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