Show 1103: What Is the Science of Lasting Relationships?
The People's Pharmacy
Joe and Terry Graedon
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 8 December 2017
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
Why do some relationships last for decades and just seem to get stronger, while others wither? Is there a secret to lasting relationships?
Kindness, Generosity and Science:
Decades ago, psychologist John Gottman began studying how newlyweds interacted with each other. He and his colleagues created a “Love Lab” in which they took careful notes and collected physiological data on each pair as they answered questions about meeting, conflicts and future plans. After six years, the psychologists determined which of the couples were still happy together and which had separated or were miserable. Based on these data, they determined that a couple of key concepts underlay the happiness of lasting relationships: kindness and generosity.
Kindness as the Food of Marriage:
That sounds simple, doesn’t it? Further research by Dr. Gottman confirmed that these two simple concepts really are fundamental. Like most simple things, though, they aren’t always easy to execute. Psychologist Don Azevedo joins us to discuss why kindness and generosity are the keys to life-long happiness and how we can practice them within our own relationships both at home and at work.
Make Yourself the Hero of Your Own Story:
Learn why the first step is to acknowledge and honor your own self, so that you have the confidence to reflect your partner’s reaction with empathy. We also consider the importance of setting limits to establish a reciprocal rather than one-sided relationship.
You can read more about Dr. Gottman’s research in this article from The Atlantic, June 12, 2014.
If you would like to listen to a longer version of our interview with Dr. Azevedo, you can do so here:
This Week’s Guest:
Don Azevedo, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and founder of Azevedo Family Psychology in Cary, NC.
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, I'm Joe Graydon. |
| 0:02.4 | I'm Terry Graydon. |
| 0:04.0 | Welcome to this podcast of the People's Pharmacy, where we bring you the stories behind the health headlines. |
| 0:10.3 | This podcast is brought to you by Redux Industries, makers of utterly smooth body cream. |
| 0:16.1 | 800-345-7339 on the web at utter cream.com. |
| 0:30.7 | Everyday relationships profoundly impact the quality of our lives. |
| 0:35.6 | What can we do to nurture our connections with those we love? |
| 0:39.1 | This is the People's Pharmacy with Terry and Joe Graydon. |
| 0:50.4 | Money is a frequent cause of friction in marriages. |
| 0:53.9 | What can couples do to address the baggage each one brings from the families they grew up in, especially when it comes to finances? |
| 1:02.0 | Kindness and generosity are critical to a loving and supportive relationship. |
| 1:06.0 | How do you put these concepts into practice in your daily life? |
| 1:10.0 | This can be especially challenging when a coer or family member rejects your good intentions. |
| 1:16.5 | Coming up on the People's Pharmacy, learn how to improve interactions at home as well as at work. |
| 1:25.2 | First, the News. |
| 1:30.5 | In the P's Pharmacy Health Headlines, one of the most popular blood pressure pills in the world has been linked to skin cancer. |
| 1:39.8 | More than 20 million Americans take hydrochlor thiocyte or or HCTZ, every day. It's found in dozens of |
| 1:47.2 | combination blood pressure pills and has been perceived as an extremely safe choice for controlling |
| 1:52.6 | hypertension. A new study from Denmark suggests that this thiozide diuretic is associated with |
| 1:59.8 | squamous cell carcinoma. |
| 2:01.6 | This type of skin cancer is linked to excessive sun exposure. |
| 2:05.6 | HCTZ sensitizes the skin to ultraviolet radiation from the sun. |
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