I talked with a couple one time and they were both bio parents and

each of them could say I know I do this I put my kids in front of my spouse sometimes

and it drives me crazy when my spouse does this to me, like they feel both sides of it, and yet you still sometimes

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We've got Ron Deal in the studio, our director of family life blended with us. Ron welcome.

Thanks Dave it's good to be with you I'm not nearly as delightful as Anne is but

I'm here yeah and you're not as pretty as her in my opinion either. Well thank you. Yeah and is not feeling well today so it's just Ron and I talking about blended family stuff and you know it's interesting

you're gonna hear later in the broadcast about this question I'm going to ask you Ron but when you drove or when you're in the car with your family who is in the front of the car?

Nan and I were in the front seat always and generally I was driving and generally she's in the passenger seat.

Now long trips, you know, she would drive as well.

But if we're just hopping in a car going somewhere in town, I'm generally driving. That's still true even

though we're empty nest at this point. Yeah well you know when you have kids in the

backseat and it could be multiple we had three sons you you know, the best seat in the car, in my opinion, is the driver

Because whoever's in the passenger seat has to take care of all the stuff. So I was always wanting to drive.

I understand. For me, it's all about being in charge and conquering the road and, you know, my

control thing comes out when we get in the car. There's no doubt about that. I know

that about myself. But yeah, I'm kind of with you. You got to break your neck when you're in the

passenger seat. So the question is, why are we talking about this today? Well, you know passenger seat. So the question is why are we talking about this today?

Well you know sometimes this is a nice little way of thinking about how your home is

structured and relationships within the home like who's in the driver's seat, who's also contributing to the driving process,

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