Should you always tell your new significant other about your past, especially if you're ashamed?

Absolutely not.

You should always put a positive spin because, quite frankly, the older you get, the negative

charge tends to fall away.

You tend to take a more spiritually enlightened perspective.

You learn to laugh at yourself. It's man when you're young and dumb everybody's going to make mistakes and the goal is as you've gotten older have you

gotten better and if you're getting better and you don't take yourself so seriously then you

shouldn't be buttered over it but a lot of guys make the mistake, especially

I'm sure you girls probably can attest to this. You go out on a first date and all the dude does is

talk about himself, get all his baggage out, tell you all the things that went sideways in his

life or went wrong or just everything about himself and but you know

and hardly you did hardly any talking almost like he's there kind of reading his resume saying

hey here's my qualifications to date you or whatever and then after that you're like no no dice it's just it's definitely just something that once you have a feel

and you're comfortable for that to that person you know all that stuff eventually you've got guys

been on dates with guys that are like that they just start talking right away about everything

they tell you their whole past.

And especially if it's bad or they're ashamed of it, it's not the kind of thing you're going to, oh, wow, I really like this person more. You just start thinking, man, they're really screwed up. I think I'm going to a hard pass on that. Because you're not in that level yet. I mean, I don't know if I'd go as far as, like, damn, they're really screwed, like, in the brain.

But I'd probably think twice about wanting to go on, like, an intimate, like, date with them again.

I'd be like, oh, hey, maybe we should be friends

so I can show you on a different path

to help and guide yourself to be better.

Because I want to...

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