Ola Como Estas, what's up guys? It's Jamie Grace and welcome to wait it out a podcast all about dating relationships and other things worth waiting for. I am still on this train of answering questions for my Instagram story. Oh, I have to sneeze. Okay, I'm back. You ever look at a light when you have to sneeze? It's like the most helpful thing in the world.

Today's question comes from him and she says he's the picture perfect, godly guy, but she's missing the spark and the feelings in a new relationship.

But I'm guessing she's wondering what she should do from here.

You know, let me just say this, first of all.

I think that if you're looking for the spark or the feelings

that you have seen in movies and seen on television

you likely won't ever find that and if you're looking for the spark or the

feelings that you've heard about in your friends relationships and their

marriages it is unfair for you to compare that their relationship and their relationships to your relationship.

So go ahead and get that in your head in that the feelings and the air quote of around sparks you know those I mean like there those

things are going to be a little bit like that's hard to really gauge because it's like

there's not really like oh how do you know he's the one well it's if you blink three times and you

start to cry out of your right eye you know what I mean like there's no

exact way to gauge sparks or feelings or emotions in that way even though you

obviously do need to be like attracted to someone interested in

them to be in a relationship, like that does seem like a smart idea. But I don't, if you are comparing

your situation to someone else's, then that is unfair. Or if you're comparing it to someone else that then that is unfair or if you're comparing it to someone

else that you used to like or someone else that he used to like that's unfair as

well because this is a new relationship and it should be treated that way and

given the opportunity to grow as it is right here as opposed to being

compared to other relationships. With that being said just because he is the

picture perfect and I'm assuming that you mean

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