Should Obesity Be a Deal Breaker in Dating?

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 29 October 2019

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Today’s question about obesity in dating comes from Will who asks: Q: Hi Debra. I’m feeling conflicted that a woman being overweight or obese has become a dealbreaker for a relationship. I do my best to eat well and exercise to keep a healthy weight for myself, especially since I’m at risk for Type II diabetes, and obesity is the number one risk factor. It seems that marrying someone who also has the discipline to maintain a healthy weight is the best way for us to live a long and healthy life together. But I feel guilty because I’ve been told since I was a child that “it’s what’s inside that counts”, and yet I’m disqualifying women with one look at their body shape. Is it okay that a woman being overweight or obese has become a dealbreaker for me? Or am I being too superficial? Should Obesity Be A Deal Breaker? You guys, we’re bringing it today on the podcast. I’ll be honest, my first reaction was to avoid answering this question, because it’s such a sensitive topic and one we don’t bring up often. But if Will was bold enough to ask it with such thoughtfulness and sensitivity, then I thought it was important to be bold enough to answer it. Without further to say, let’s dive into this candid question and discuss whether or not obesity should be a deal breaker when it comes to the things you’re looking for in a dating relationship. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 43 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. 10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:51.6	I'm your host, Deborah Felita.
0:53.4	And I'm so glad you're tuning
0:54.7	into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating, singleness, and marriage. For those of
1:00.6	you who don't know me or are tuning in for the first time, I'm a licensed professional counselor
1:05.2	and author specializing in relationship issues. I also run the Relationship Advice blog,
1:10.6	True Love Dates.com, reaching millions
1:13.0	of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. If you've tuned
1:19.0	into the podcast before, you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people call in or write in
1:24.4	with their relationship questions, and I answer them on this show in short,
1:27.9	practical, bite-sized answers. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show,
1:33.7	send it via email or voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com or check out my podcast page
1:40.3	truolovdates.com slash love and relationships. And I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the
1:45.7	episodes. So let's get started. Today's question comes from Will from Minneapolis.
1:55.4	Hi, Deborah. I'm feeling conflicted that a woman being overweight or obese has become a deal breaker
2:00.5	for a relationship.
2:02.0	I do my best to eat well and exercise to keep a healthy weight for myself, especially since
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