Brian writes and asks this, Pastor John, I logged into my wife's Facebook account yesterday

as I sometimes do in order to keep up with family and friends.

I don't really use Facebook, I don't post.

My wife was at home and also logged on and she was having a private chat with her best

friend.

The message feature pops up automatically and you're showing the conversation so I saw

it and they were talking about me.

So I'm not speaking kindly at all, in fact they were discussing my faults among comments

about my personal struggles with depression.

My wife messaged a few extremely private topics to this friend, that was heartbroken.

How would you advise spouses on what they should and should not share with friends or family?

Here are five or six ideas or guidelines that have helped me.

Noel and I have faced this and I've blown it a few times and I'll mention one of those

to give you hope at the end.

These ideas or guidelines are based on the assumption that the struggles a husband and

wife have are normal hardships of getting along when expectations are different and there

are more or less frequent disappointments in life.

I'm not talking about illegal behaviors or life threatening situations.

So I just want to clear that from the beginning.

So here's idea number one or principle number one.

I think we should follow Matthew 1815 which says if you find your brother or sister sinning

against you, taking the fall, you go to them first.

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