Okay, quick pull. Raise your hand if you want your kid to feel good about themselves.

I'm looking around in my studio with no one else, but I'm thinking about you. I think all parents have their hands up.

We all want our kid to feel good about themselves. That's the outcome. Now, the how becomes really interesting.

How do we raise a kid so that they actually feel good about themselves?

And what might help a kid have a moment of good feelings but might get in the way of them feeling good about themselves long term?

And yes, we're going to be talking about praise.

Now, quick disclaimer.

There's a lot out there.

Oh, they say, I'm not supposed to say, good job.

I'm not supposed to tell my kid that something they did is impressive.

If there's one thing, we're really against that good inside.

It's rigidity.

This is not a don't say good job episode.

Sure, keep that in your vocabulary here and there,

all good. I want to really get to something deeper to really think what is confidence really about?

How can we build it in childhood in a way that actually is still useful to a kid in their teenage

and adult years.

That's the really important part.

And here's something surprising about praise.

Research shows that certain kinds of praise might do the opposite of what we intend.

One well-known study by the great Carol Dweck, a Stanford psychologist who spent decades studying

motivation and resilience found that when kids are praised for being smart, they become less

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