Carolyn from Derby Shire England writes and asks this, Dear Pastor John, how should I handle

friends or family visiting overnight who are non-Christians and who are sinfully living

together or who are living in same-sex relationships?

Likewise, Wayne writes and asks, Pastor John, how far should I go to impose my values on

non-Christians or even nominal Christians when they stay in my home?

For instance, if an unmarried couple wants to share a bed when spending the night in our

home, should I insist that they not share a bed, even at the risk of destroying the relationship?

I don't find this question easy, first of all.

Some might think it's a no-brainer, but I don't.

Because I agree that in general, we're not responsible for the sins of unbelievers.

In the church, among believers, we seek to admonish each other and encourage each other

to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, and we discipline those who are unrepentant

and flagrant sin.

But what about those outside?

Here's the key passage, one of our elders preached on this a couple of Sundays ago.

Paul says in 1 Corinthians 5, 9, I wrote to you in my letter, not to associate with

the sexually immoral people, not at all, meaning the sexually immoral of this world.

For what have I to do with judging outsiders?

Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge?

God judges those outside.

So I feel the concern that Caroline and Wayne express in not wanting to police the bedrooms

of unbelievers and not to let such a policing drive people away when you were hoping that

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