Have you ever misgendered someone that had a whole conversation where you thought, oh,

he was nice.

And then maybe you say that out loud.

And then you get that sinking feeling.

This happened to me a few weeks back, with a guest on this show, Farhad Manjoo.

The last time you were on, I remember I went to your Twitter bio to like maybe retweet

something you had done, you had said.

And I looked at your Twitter bio and I thought, oh, no.

Yeah.

Right at the top of Farhad's Twitter bio was a simple note.

They slash them.

And I sent it to my producer and I was just like, did we mess up here?

And basically, I guess you could say you kind of messed up because you just didn't ask.

So I messaged Farhad.

I said, hey, I think we misgendered you here.

I'm so sorry.

And even as I wrote this, I was like, did I miss a memo here?

Farhad's a columnist for The New York Times.

Probably the first one to go by they them pronouns.

I shouldn't have known about this.

It turns out Farhad had a plan.

Last week in a column titled Call Me They, Farhad officially unveiled their new pronouns.

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