From the first year of this podcast, we decided to address mature topics in awkward questions.

No apologies about that.

If you're comfortable asking us, we'll address it.

So needless to say, today's question is a mature one from your couples.

The question arise from men and from women.

Here are three representative emails I've picked out.

First, an anonymous wife, right, saying, Pastor John, I have a question.

It's embarrassing, but here it is.

My husband likes to use role-playing in the bedroom in various levels of bondage and dominance.

He wants me to say things like, I am your slave.

He wants me to wear certain collars around my neck to the far extreme.

He likes to fantasize that he is raping me.

He's a very nice person outside of the bedroom.

He only asks if he can play out the fantasy in bed.

What should I do?

Second, another anonymous wife writes in, dear Pastor John, thank you for the podcast.

I have been married for 20 years.

Before we got married, my husband told me he had struggled with porn.

After we were married, he asked me to try some of the things he saw on the porn he had

watched.

I consented.

Our premarital counselor told us that anything was okay in the marriage bed with mutual consent.

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