SHITSHOW SATURDAY #87 - Overcoming Toxic Guilt
Adult Child
Andrea
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🗓️ 13 January 2024
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY DETOX RETREAT March 5th-7th - Free online event w/ 14 experts teaching you strategies you can use to overcome the impact of toxic family dynamics.
Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discuss toxic guilt, including the below reading from Language of Letting Go -
Letting Go of Guilt (January 11th)
"There's a good trick that people in dysfunctional relationships use," said one recovering woman. "The other person does something inappropriate or wrong, then stands there until you feel guilty and end up apologizing."
It's imperative that we stop feeling so guilty.
Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty.
Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other people's best interests. Guilt can stop us from taking healthy care of ourselves.
We don't have to let others count on the fact that we'll always feel guilty. We don't have to allow ourselves to be controlled by guilt - earned or unearned! We can break through the barrier of guilt that holds us back from self care. Push. Push harder. We are not at fault, crazy, or wrong. We have a right to set boundaries and to insist on appropriate treatment. We can separate another's issues from our issues, and let the person experience the consequences of his or her own behavior, including guilt. We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated.
Today, I will let go of my big and little guilty feelings. Light and love are on my side.
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| 0:00.0 | My dear shit shows, I want to let you know about a free online event that you definitely don't want to miss out on. |
| 0:06.5 | The dysfunctional family detox that is being held March 5th through March 7th. |
| 0:11.6 | This is being organized by friend of the pod recurring |
| 0:14.5 | guest Laura K. Connell and over the course of those three days you will get to |
| 0:18.4 | hear from 14 different experts including yours truly although I don't know if I really consider myself an expert, |
| 0:24.8 | but whatever, on a variety of different dysfunctional family |
| 0:29.2 | related topics. |
| 0:30.6 | Let me tell you some of the names of these presentations to wet your whistle a little bit, okay? |
| 0:34.8 | So we have ties that hurt, betrayal trauma within the family. |
| 0:39.7 | The link between chronic pain and narcissistic abuse. How to heal codependency and let go of anger and |
| 0:45.0 | resentment, how hidden in posture syndrome affects relationship dynamics. |
| 0:49.0 | So those are just a few of the presentations that you can get access to. The half hour interviews for that day |
| 0:55.7 | will be released at 10 a.m. Eastern and will be available for 24 hours. You will have |
| 1:00.7 | access to a private Facebook group where you can connect with the |
| 1:04.8 | experts and other retreat participants and then also after registering you can |
| 1:10.0 | upgrade to the all access pass which means that you can get ongoing access to the presentations, |
| 1:16.0 | beyond the 24 hours, as well as premium bonuses from the speakers. |
| 1:21.2 | So see the show notes for a link to register for this event. Again, totally free, totally |
| 1:26.3 | online. Get on it folks. Mm-hmm, yeah. |
| 1:33.0 | Yeah. |
| 1:34.0 | Oh, |
| 1:35.0 | Oh, Oh, Oh, |
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