When our healing isn't met, one of the most painful parts of healing is realizing the people we love might not want to heal with us.

You start doing this work on learning old patterns, setting boundaries, naming your pain,

and then you look around and realize they're not coming with you.

They're not listening.

They're not interested or worse.

They're digging in even deeper.

And it hurts because when someone doesn't acknowledge your healing, your growth or your

truth, it can feel a lot like being rejected all over again.

Sometimes it's subtle.

A loved one deflex every time you try to share what you're learning.

Sometimes it's blatant.

They mock therapy, avoid accountability, or act like your boundaries or personal attacks.

Sometimes it's just silence and that silence can be deafening.

Why it hits so deep.

This isn't just frustrating.

It's activating because for many of us, it mirrors the same painful dynamics we

experienced growing up, having our emotional world ignored, feeling like the deep one in a room

of people who stayed surface level, being the truth teller in a family that preferred denial,

holding the weight of awareness while everyone else pretended

things were fine. It can re-trigger the belief I'm too much, or if they loved me, they'd

meet me here, or even worse, maybe I'm wrong for wanting more. But their unwillingness to grow

is not proof that you're asking for too much. It's proof of their own discomfort with the work you've had

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