All right, man, welcome back to the man talk show. I'm Connor Beaton. And today we're

to be talking about what a woman really means when she says that she wants you to be more

vulnerable and open up. Now, I've touched on this before, but I'm going to go much deeper into

this topic. And maybe you've heard somebody talk about this before.

But I'm going to try and lay this out in a way that I think is very, very practical and

helpful for you.

So I'm going to start with what a woman does not mean, because I think for many of us as

men, it helps us to define things by understanding our own

misinterpretations. And to be honest with you, the majority of men that I see making errors and

mistakes in their relationship when it comes to this, it's because they've misinterpreted

what their girlfriend or their wife is actually saying. So what does a woman mean when she

says, I want you to be more vulnerable? Well, she does not mean that she wants constant access

to your emotions. She does not mean that she wants constant access to your insecurities or your

fears or your grievances or everything that you're pissed off about,

the guy in traffic and the person at the grocery store and your parents or whatever. She doesn't

want you. She doesn't want to become a receptacle for all of your emotional grievances and

intensities. And this is what can happen for a lot of men, is that they

finally get asked and get a kind of permission to open up and be vulnerable and express themselves.

And for a lot of guys, they kind of, they open the dam gates. They open the, you know, the floodgates

of the dam. And they just kind of emotionally vomit all over their partner for weeks or months on end, and it can disrupt the homeostasis of the relationship.

It can really alter the dynamic.

And you see, the problem is that you as a man, and this is what most of us as men do, you interpret that person's words,

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