I'm Nora McEnerney and this is Terrible Thanks for Asking.

This show was born out of my own personal Terribles and if you've been listening long enough,

you already know them and if you're new, here they are.

Lost a pregnancy, lost my dad, lost a husband, boom, boom, boom, just like that from October

to November 2014.

One after the other, no time to get back unsure before being ripped back into the waves,

no way of telling what was up or if the storm would ever settle, people give you a lot

of books when your life falls apart.

They give you hot dishes and they give you books and when it's safe, they give you hugs.

We are people who want to comfort, who want to have the right words and the right things

to make it better as fast as we can.

When really, if you've been in the shed, you know that some things just cannot be fixed

and some things are just hard.

I got many books after all that happened and many of them ended up in the donation pile

because my brain could not read.

I could read but I couldn't absorb.

I could form the words but they didn't mean anything.

But one of the books that I actually read that actually got through all of the grief

and all the pain was Anlamot's book, Traveling Mercies and here's why it's this quote right

here.

You will lose someone you can't live without and your heart will be badly broken.

And the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved but this

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