Sexy Sacred

All My Relations Podcast

Matika Wilbur & Temryss Lane

Native, Documentary, Pop Culture, Society & Culture, Relationships, Indigenous, Native American, Society, Contemporary Native American Culture

5 • 3K Ratings

🗓️ 26 October 2021

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Join us for an episode all about snaggin’! For part two of All My Loving Relations, we continue our conversation with the phenomenal Geraldine King, and bring in comedian Deanna Diaz (aka Dianna M.A.D.). Join us as we embark on a teepee creepin’ journey of all things S-E-X. Some things to look forward to: stories from our own aunties, the sacred power of self-pleasure, and some “dang cackle-able” jokes.

Because of Christianity, and other colonizing forces, we don’t really know how to talk about sex, even in 2021. But why do some of our aunties, uncles, and even grandparents never seem to quit it with their sexual jokes? Often, our relatives use humor as a way to access topics which have long been stigmatized. Also, our kin should be more open to dialogue about sex given traditions of sexual agency within Native communities. However, Native people are also affected by the same shameful misconceptions which plague the rest of the euro-christian dominated world. But we should not be ashamed of sex! It is such a vital component of our most intimate relationships.

Importantly, we acknowledge that as two cis-hetero women, this is a narrow conversation. It excludes a whole diverse, beautiful world of sex among our LGBTQ+, and Two Spirit relations. But we have plans for that conversation later in the season, so stay tuned for Sexy Sacred Round 2!

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Geraldine King (Anishinaabe) is a member of Kiashke Zaaging Anishinaabek located in the Robinson Superior Treaty area, northwestern Ontario. Her research interests include: Anishinaabe erotics, ethics of intimacy, kinship studies, theories of Anishinaabe phenomenologies, eco-erotics and Indigenous pedagogical transformation.

Deanna Diaz, aka Deanna M.A.D. (Tonowanda Seneca), is from the Tonawanda Seneca Nation, raised in Southern California. She is a hilarious, and powerful standup comedian and part of The Ladies of Native Comedy. Deanna isn’t afraid to have the embarrassing, funny, and taboo real talk about sex. She helps us to have healthier conversations about sex in Indian Country.

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0:00.0	Hello, relatives. Welcome to our sexy, sacred episode of all my relations where we get to talk about my favorite thing to do.
0:10.3	Let's talk about sex, baby.
0:13.2	Come on. Let's talk about you and me. Let's talk about all the good things and bad things.
0:20.9	I don't know the rest. I don't either.
0:22.9	Hi, everyone. It's Dr. Dr. Dezi and today we're going to continue our conversation with the phenomenal Geraldine King and Anishinaabe scholar who studies the ethics of intimacy,
0:34.2	ecoerotics and all things love and sex.
0:37.0	Deanna Diaz is also joining us, this dope comedian who will tell you a little more about later. Our last episode
0:44.1	we spoke with Geraldine about all our loving relations.
0:48.0	We got really deep into the way that love was disrupted by colonization, but we didn't really bring that over into the love and sex part.
0:58.0	So today we're going to be talking about Snaggan, T.P. Creepin, all of it.
1:03.0	We've wanted to do this episode for a long time because such a fundamental aspect of who we are as human beings, as animals.
1:11.0	It's central to our relationships and I feel like 90% of the conversations that Matika and I have are like about sex.
1:17.0	We're talking about this all the time, but because of Christianity and other colonizing forces, all of the isms, we don't talk about sex like we should.
1:27.0	There's so much shame that surrounds our conversations about sex, but as Geraldine reminds us, we've always been sexual beings and sex can be beautiful and healthy and natural.
1:38.0	And sex can be real sacred.
1:41.0	Oh, I don't know if I've had that kind. I'm trying to get that real sacred sex to you.
1:49.0	It's time for us to overcome this colonized way of thinking that makes us feel like sex should be taboo.
1:56.0	Of course, we too, us indigenous people are part of the sex positivity movement and it's good for us talking about sex brings so much laughter. It's good medicine.
2:09.0	It's healing absolutely and making jokes is an integral part about healthy conversations about sex.
2:15.0	And like we'll get into later, we have strong memories of our aunties, our uncles, our other can, even grandma's and grandpa's right, using humor to talk about sex, teasing left, right and center.
2:27.0	And often those types of jokes were sexual and it's meant to stir conversation, right, there's lessons in the humor.
2:34.0	And doing so, those conversations help to normalize what Christianity has deemed so inappropriate.
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