If you're not thinking about sex in a way that is pro-sex,

that impairs your sexual health too.

So biggest sex organ is the brain.

Dopamine pathway is super interesting,

because dopamine is released on pursuing something found to be rewarding.

Why is that important with sex?

You can't take me out to dinner and feed me cold chicken and mushy broccoli and then say,

well, why don't you like food, Kelly?

Well, I don't like mushy broccoli.

I can't desire something that's not rewarding to me.

And so so many women, and this was very interesting, so a male researcher, I was interviewing him for my podcast, about women's sexual health and desire. And he knows a lot about this. And I'm like, wait, hold on. You're assuming women are having sex worth desiring. And he's like, well, yeah. And at that moment, I was like, whoa, that's such a male-centric way to think about sex, because you're having desirable sex, right?

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Today's episode is special for me because my guest is not just someone I admire professionally.

She's a very good friend and one of the people who has most changed how I practice medicine.

Dr. Kelly Casperson was the first person who made the sex-based differences in sexual health care clicked for me in a way I could not

unsee. We approach men's sexual health in a structured, resource manner as something to be taken

seriously. But we approach women's sexual health with silence,

dismissal, and an attitude of, that's normal. Kelly has been calling this out for years,

and she's been giving women and clinicians the language, the science, and the permission to do

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