Sex, Soulmates, and Suffering: Honest Answers to Hard Christian Questions

Voxology

Religion & Spirituality, Philosophy, Society & Culture

4.7 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 9 June 2017

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

Tackling three deeply personal questions that many Christians wrestle with, Mike Erre and Andy bravely open up a raw, grace-filled conversation on sexuality, singleness, soulmates, and divine sovereignty in times of tragedy. This Facebook Live episode builds on the Voxology Podcast’s commitment to Gospel-centered honesty and vulnerability—taking on shame, breaking stereotypes, and offering theological clarity around some of the most misunderstood and silenced experiences in Christian culture.

Key Takeaways:
• Navigating Singleness and Sexuality – Why Christian women (and men!) struggle in silence with loneliness and masturbation, and how shame-based theology distorts our understanding of God’s grace and blessings.
• God, Masturbation, and Marriage – Is God withholding a godly spouse because of sin struggles? Mike unpacks why this notion is incompatible with the radical love we see in Jesus.
• The Myth of Soulmates – A biblical critique of the soulmate concept, why it’s rooted in pop mythology and not scripture, and what a better, more grounded theology of marriage actually looks like.
• Where Was God in Columbine? – Wrestling with God’s sovereignty in suffering, and how we hold the tension between thanking God for protection while grieving profound loss.

Resources Mentioned:
• Previous Voxology Episodes on Suffering and God’s Will – voxologypodcast.com
• Resources on Sexuality and Shame – Stay tuned for future episode recommendations
• Authors quoted: Dallas Willard and reflections on God’s beauty and evil

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As always, we encourage and would love discussion as we pursue. Feel free to email in questions to [email protected], and to engage the conversation on Facebook and Instagram.

We're on YouTube (if you're into that kinda thing): VOXOLOGY TV.

Our Merch Store! ETSY

Learn more about the Voxology Podcast

Subscribe on iTunes or Spotify

Support the Voxology Podcast on Patreon

The Voxology Spotify channel can be found here: Voxology Radio

Follow Mike on Twitter: www.twitter.com/mikeerre

Music in this episode by Timothy John Stafford

Instagram & Twitter: @GoneTimothy

Transcript

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0:00.0	A morning of, what, nothing was happening in the world, right, on social media?
0:11.3	Nope.
0:13.4	I'm going to testify myself this morning on, on some things.
0:17.8	So anyway, we are thrilled as a part of the Vox podcast to take a few questions
0:24.2	on Facebook live and, you know, we'll probably start Facebooking our podcasts. But at this point,
0:34.3	we want to at least take enough time that if you want to chime in or if you want to ask a question or two, you can do that.
0:41.4	Typically, four or five people are watching live at a time, which for us is a pretty big number.
0:48.6	Bigly numbers.
0:49.4	Bigly.
0:50.4	And so anyway, we're excited.
0:52.0	All right.
0:52.2	So, Andy, we got questions today?
0:53.7	Yeah, we got a few. Okay, let's do this. Some pretty, you know, there'll be quick ones, I'm sure.
0:58.5	Oh, okay, perfect. Awesome. All right, number one. Okay. Here we go. I am a Christian woman and in my mid-30s and have been single for a long time. And the fact that I'm not married is really hard to deal with sometimes. I want to be married more than anything to take away the sting of loneliness and I
1:15.7	unfortunately have become addicted to masturbating. I'm scared to death that because of this...
1:20.0	I'm sorry, that's only a male issue. Next question. I'm scared to death that because of this,
1:26.8	God won't bless me with the husband.
1:28.6	Can and will God still bless me with a godly man, even if I'm struggling in this area?
1:34.7	Oh, wow.
1:37.9	First of all, I think someone in that situation is experiencing a very unique kind of aloneness and suffering.
1:48.0	And I'm so very sorry that that has not happened for you yet.
1:53.5	I totally get the, I got married at 29.
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