Sex, Queerness, Deviance and Diddy
Tea with Queen and J.
Tea with Queen and J.
4.8 • 765 Ratings
🗓️ 1 January 2025
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
Let's talk about HOW we're talking about Diddy.
Though Sean "Diddy" Combs is in jail on a variety of SA allegations, a lot of social media content has reduced his alleged behavior to "being freaky" - raising a larger conversation about society's understanding of SA, consent and it's complicated relationship with consensual sex.
Our resident kink enthusiast, Queen breaks down how sex and kinks get harmfully conflated with acts of violence and SA, while J. gets in their Black church kid Telfar about the influence of cultural Christianity, domination & control on community concepts of sex and deviance.
Also the kink spectrum, group sex, the closet queer to r*pist pipeline (that's not a thing), queerness and possibility, and more.
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00:45 GloRilla's PR savvy
4:09 So Diddy is in jail...
6:15 Exhibit A: Diddy is not from Harlem
9:10 How social media is engaging with the Diddy allegations
10:47 Being "freaky" vs being "a r*pist"
12:52 Conflating sex with deviance is a tradition
14:06 The kink spectrum
18:46 Queerness, non-monogamy and Black cultural Christianity
22:53 How a cultural context of control & domination impacts sexual beliefs
27:13 Not the group sex girlies being surprised by consent
35:35 Closeted sexuality is not a pipeline to being a r*pist
38:00 How disregarding whole groups of people allows abuse to persist
41:27 Kendrick's "Not Like Us" and how it frames SA
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| 0:43.4 | Okay. Love you. Bye. I feel like I'm being like excluded from conversations about fun events. |
| 0:50.2 | Because threesomes are so regular to me that is not an event to be like |
| 0:54.3 | I had a threesome yesterday. |
| 0:56.1 | That is Tuesday. |
| 0:57.4 | I just feel like... |
| 0:58.9 | That's Tuesday. |
| 0:59.4 | I just feel... |
| 1:00.4 | That's why the threesomes just come up |
| 1:02.1 | as they come up because it's not like... |
| 1:05.0 | I would like for them to come up with more regularity. |
| 1:08.3 | That's all that I'm saying. |
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