Sex, Porn, Therapy Discharge, and Ethics
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 16 February 2024
⏱️ 88 minutes
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00:00 Sexual attraction with safety
02:19 Cheating monologues & overt conversations
15:35 Blindsided without closure in therapy
25:04 Can a therapist wear too many hats?
34:21 Is it normal not to do intake paperwork?
40:45 Are fast and loose ethics helpful?
56:12 Is there a wrong reason to be a therapist?
1:05:14 Couples Therapy
1:12:55 Recording with Bob
1:17:11 Gifts for Bob
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February 16, 2024
The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®
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| 0:00.0 | So Bob I have a couple emails here about sex. |
| 0:04.0 | Oh, so let's read him and answer. What do you say? |
| 0:07.0 | I say, howdy stranger? It's been a minute. |
| 0:09.0 | Middle-tier patron Jocelyn, she says, |
| 0:12.0 | because of my trauma history, I frequently experience sexual |
| 0:16.4 | feelings when I feel safe. |
| 0:19.2 | Or as Kirk described it in past episodes, I have feelings of sexual attraction that naturally flow from |
| 0:26.0 | Finally accessing feelings of safety and trust with somebody. Yeah right on I think that this sexual |
| 0:32.1 | transference as we might call it, can have a serious upside. |
| 0:37.0 | Personally, the safety sexy vibes clue me into something about the situation of feeling safe, which because of past trauma, |
| 0:46.2 | I'm not always easily able to detect. |
| 0:49.6 | Maybe other people know feelings of safety through other cues, but this seems to be how my body responds |
| 0:56.4 | to safety. |
| 0:57.6 | My sexual transference can happen anywhere in any time. It can happen with men and women of all shapes and sizes and |
| 1:06.0 | doesn't actually conform to my usual sexual preferences or orientation. |
| 1:10.9 | Bob what do you think? Just ching in. I think this is lovely, a beautifully non-self-judgmental |
| 1:17.6 | description and awareness of this thing that happens to you and a fearlessness about it. It's fantastic. |
| 1:24.8 | Yeah going on here. |
| 1:26.9 | Recently I felt sexual attraction to my personal trainer who is not generally my type, but because she was reliably on time for our |
| 1:36.2 | appointments and that she waited for me, I felt safe sexualness. Usually I let these feelings play out in my mind and body and they go |
| 1:45.9 | away on their own after some time. I'm extra mindful whenever this comes up for me at the |
| 1:52.0 | workplace but other than that I just take out these |
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