Sex in long-term relationships
Woman's Hour
BBC
4.1 • 3K Ratings
🗓️ 3 November 2017
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
Psychotherapist Esther Perel wrote her first book Mating in Captivity ten years ago. Her second book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity has just been published. She joins Jenni to hear from Woman's Hour listeners about the challenges they face keeping the sexual spark alive in a long-term relationship and to give advice based on 20 years experience of talking to couples .
Mismatched libidos, pain during intercourse, getting into a routine and what happens to desire when kids come along are some of the issues raised. Is it unrealistic to expect passion in a marriage? Why does the sex seem to go off even in the most loving relationships and does it really matter?
Presenter: Jenni Murray Producer: Erin Riley Reporter: Abigail Hollick.
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| 0:29.3 | Hello Jenny Murray welcoming you to Friday's edition and the Women's our podcast. |
| 0:35.0 | Good morning. Anyone who's been in a long-term relationship knows that the sex |
| 0:42.0 | ain't necessarily what it was at the outset. There's the baby |
| 0:45.8 | question, is their sex after childbirth and how do men deal with the child |
| 0:50.7 | occupying more of your time than they do. There's the familiarity. How |
| 0:56.6 | erotic and exciting can it be when you've been at it for years. And then there's the mismatched expectations. One of you wants it. Often |
| 1:06.5 | the other really can't be bothered. Well, several weeks ago we asked you to tell us your experience and throughout this week we've heard |
| 1:15.0 | from four of you. Katie and three other women we are calling Lizzy, Diane and Shan. You can hear those longer stories through the woman's hour website, but this morning |
| 1:26.1 | we're joined by the couple therapist Esther Burrell, the author of the wonderfully entitled Mating in captivity. |
| 1:35.0 | We'll hear some of the most telling comments those women made |
| 1:39.0 | and hopefully offer analysis and advice. |
| 1:42.0 | Now Esther was born in Belgium to parents who had |
| 1:46.1 | survived the Holocaust but had both lost their entire families. It's their |
| 1:51.7 | vitality and determination to live their lives to the full that inspired |
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