It's TED Talks Daily. I'm Elise Hugh. Consent can be a thorny topic in general and tricky to navigate in our relationships.

But should it be? In her hilarious and relatable talk from TED Women 2021, the sex educator and podcaster Kaz offers a fresh look at consent and the unconventional

places where we can learn to talk about it to have safer, more satisfying sex and relationships.

After the talk, if you want to hear more from Kaz, you can check out her podcast, The Spread,

wherever you're listening to this.

Seems like only yesterday.

My mother said to me,

the ugliest thing in the world

is a naked man with socks on.

Can you believe that was the first piece of sex advice I ever received?

I was 11 years old growing up in Kenya.

And I believe this might have been my mother's way of trying to scare me out of having

intimate relationships with men. It didn't. Instead, I became fascinated by sex. I wanted to hear other people's

stories about sex and watch all the movies with all the sex scenes. Everything about this

very taboo subject was so intriguing to me. Well, now my mom's gone. Nine years this year. And true to

her word, the ugliest thing in the world is a naked man with socks on. But over time, I have found

things to be far much uglier. It took me a ton of therapy

to realize that my fixation with sex

was due to a traumatized childhood.

See, I was sexually assaulted when I was eight years old.

And I never told anybody,

because even in my comedic sex advice household, I still didn't

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