Hey Spartans, it's Dr. L with Spartan Mind.

Today we're talking about internal emotional boundaries.

So there are external boundaries, the boundaries that you set with a different

person, and there are internal boundaries, the boundaries you set with yourself.

And internal emotional boundaries are boundaries that you set with yourself as it relates to emotions.

So let me give you an example of this.

So let's say you're feeling great, you're in a good mood, everything's going well, you go to the grocery

store. And the person behind the counter is grumpy. They're irritated and they're not as friendly

as you would like them to be. And all of a sudden you get in the car and you're grumpy. That's

because you haven't set a good internal emotional boundary with the person at the

grocery store. And all of a sudden their emotions have been absorbed by you and you're finding yourself in a

position of grumpiness when just before you were cheery as ever.

So one of the reasons why it's important for us to set a good internal emotional boundary is that

if we don't we can absorb the emotions of other people and get over-regulated and

overwhelmed and then we sort of lose sight of how we were even

feeling in the first place. So one of the ways that you do that that you set in

internal emotional boundary is by calling up an internal coach or just a dialogue in your

head around separating their emotions from your own emotions. So here's how that might

look. You're cheery, you're joyful, you go to the grocery

store. The person at the counter is grumpy, irritated, not very friendly. You leave, but instead of absorbing

their own feelings, you call up in your head, well, they're grumpy today,

but I'm in a good mood.

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