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Some families have only easy-going compliant kids and if that's you, God bless you.

You are special because many of us have a mix.

We have some compliant kids, we have some children who live to just press the boundaries.

And that rebellion can keep us in a cycle of conflict

that starts as soon as they get up

and never finishes until they go to bed. I'm John Fuller along with

Danny where to and Danny that drama cycle that conflict cycle is exhausting

what do you see as a counselor for ways to kind of shut that down and get out of that cycle?

Generally, there isn't just a sudden, here's a rebellious child. They begin that way. There's a temperament that is already

wanting to oppose. And I want to clarify something, even if you have an easy-going

kid, there's still a rebelliousness inside.

Some of them just go under the radar very well.

And then there's some that are just in your face.

And these are the ones you're talking about, the ones that come in your face,

and you have no question about the fact that they want to rebel against every rule.

You say, hey, they've always liked green beans and you may say, hey, eat your green beans.

I don't want green beans.

And in that case, what they're most excited about is battle. The more you give them

battle, the more excited and stimulated they become. I was going to say, is that an adrenaline

thing? It focuses attention.

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