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You want to train your child to function well in society, to be likeable, to get along

with others, and to handle relationships well, and that's why you need to create boundaries

for your kids when they're young.

That is not always easy, but that's why we're here today.

I'm John Fuller, along with Danny Werta,

and here's a conversation focused president Jim Daly and I had

with Drs Henry Cloud and John Townsend who

explained that boundary setting can often be met with a whole lot of resistance but the key is

to strike a balance of love and limits.

What are boundaries because not everybody knows your definition of that, but what are boundaries

when it comes to relationships?

What do you mean by boundaries?

Well, probably the simplest description guys would be, it's a property line. It's the thing that

determines what you're responsible for inside your property, which is your life and your heart and what you're not responsible for. for springs of life in your hearts where everything important for you lies. So that's what a

boundary is. It determines I'm responsible from my actions and my attitudes and my values

and my feelings and I'm responsible to help other people with theirs but I'm not responsible for those things.

Now you're both dads and you've had to do this and probably learn even though you're both clinical psychologists.

I mean you've studied this as grad students and then you were applying it as dads.

How did it work in your own family?

It's confessional time.

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