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If you're a single person and particularly a single woman, you should know something.

Guy did a book called Datanomics, and he broke down all the numbers and stuff and if you

like math you'll love it if you don't let me boil it down for you the numbers are not in your

favor and you probably knew that already you probably had a sense of this but it's true please tell me

there's the upside to well okay here's what i think the upside is okay because you can't argue with the math in terms of like college educated guys, for instance. If you're a college educated woman and you're looking for somebody who's a peer in that sense, there just aren't many. In fact, guys tend to be ridiculously selective now where they can find, and they'll even admit admit this they'll find a beautiful woman who's

smart everything they want to but hey i could hold out for somebody else and he's saying that's the

reality i guess the upshot is a couple of things number one if you ever thought maybe is there's something

wrong with me this guy's saying he's not coming at it from a christian perspective per se but he's like

you should at least realize it's not about there's something wrong with you it's just numbers and there's so many other people who are in the same exact situation that you're in is that a is that what you're looking for as far as a no no it's not that's not what I'm looking for at all. It's not you. It's math. I was hoping that was the upside, though. It is. It is. I mean, if you can detach your emotions from it, which a lot of women, we have problems doing. But if we can, we can say, okay, it's math. You're such a great advocate of explaining, as a single woman, of explaining,

look, you have to learn to be content where you are that this could be the rest of your life,

and that's okay. Yeah, I do agree with that. That's not a huge downer. Look, so many people are

in marriages and they're despondent. True. About people just aren't content one way or the other.

Might as well be content. And at least you know, that's not your imagination. It's not like you can hear

an old song from the 30s where it's this man. He's like, I must marry you. I want you. And you're

like, where are those guys now that are singularly focused on finding a spouse? And they're not here. And like you get what's, it want you. And you're like, where are those guys now that are singularly focused on finding

a spouse? And they're not here. And like, it must be me. No, no, no, no. It's not 30s anymore.

Statistically, it's just not. It is true. And I've observed this as a married person. So, look,

it's not even a bias towards myself or some single people get blamed for being single. Like there's something about, in church culture it can even be, well, there's something about your spirit that's unattractive to people or something. They'll even put it in these terms. I've seen this. They'll make it really, I'll try to make it positive. Like, God is working on you. And when he's done working on on you then that special person is going to come

into your life like that's anything but insulting and all the married people are like god's finished

with you and that's why you got married because you're so awesome that's the silent implication yes

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