SelfWork YGTG: Marriage Is Not For Chickens - A Giveaway!
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 13 September 2023
⏱️ 6 minutes
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Summary
Hello my friends!
This September (2023) we're giving away two(2) copies of a little book Christine Mathias and I worked on called Marriage Is Not For Chickens. A post by the same name, when it appeared in HuffPost, earned over 200,000 views and over 50,000 shares... Wow! (Of course, I didn't get a call to be on a morning talk show... lolol)
This book may take you two minutes to read because it's meant to be a gift for someone who's getting married or deciding to commit to a relationship - or maybe to someone who's having an anniversary. The photos that fit all 24 statements of "what marriage is" and "what marriage is not" were either taken by Christine or my old high school friend Deborah Strauss. The images are breath-taking, poignant, evocative, or simply "right." We're very proud of it - and hope it will give you and yours joy.
So, all you have to do is leave a written review on the SelfWork page on Apple Podcasts to be included in the drawing! But I realized, you might need to hear what it's all about. So that's what today's quick YGTG (You Get The Gist) is all about!
Listen in, smile, and I hope you enter the contest - so you can give it away, keep it, or have fun with it in some way or the other.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome, or welcome back to self-work. We've got a YGTG today because I wanted to explain |
| 0:12.0 | to you what I'm talking about when I say we're giving away marriage is not for chickens. |
| 0:16.9 | It's a little book that I wrote but Christine Mathias and another friend of mine gathered |
| 0:22.7 | the beautiful photography for their own work. It was a post I wrote way back in 2014 and |
| 0:28.8 | I wrote it for the Huff Post. It received over 200,000 views and 50,000 shares. But the |
| 0:36.3 | sort of ironic thing, of course, is that I never was asked to be on one of the morning talk shows |
| 0:40.3 | because I guess I was talking about something a little more positive. But I'm coming up |
| 0:45.6 | my 33rd wedding anniversary. And I still believe these 12 things that marriage is not and |
| 0:52.1 | 12 things that marriage is. And we're giving this little book away, a little gift book. |
| 0:57.1 | It's a book you'd give someone who's celebrating an anniversary or who's getting married or |
| 1:01.3 | just keep a copy on your din coffee table as something for someone to pick up and read |
| 1:05.8 | and smile about. So here it is. And I'd love to hear from you about what you think. First, |
| 1:12.0 | 12 things marriage is not. One, marriage is not for chickens. It's hard work. Number two, |
| 1:19.6 | marriage is not a dictatorship. You don't want to win all the time because that would |
| 1:24.0 | mean your partner would lose all the time. Number three, marriage is not rocket science. The |
| 1:30.6 | principles are simple, kindness, respect, and loyalty. Number four, marriage is not old-fashioned. |
| 1:39.0 | Number five, marriage is not in and of itself stimulating. The two of you can get in a rut. |
| 1:45.2 | You have to keep things fresh. Number six, marriage is not about collecting things. The joys of |
| 1:52.3 | marriage aren't tangible. You live them. Number seven, marriage is not for the impatience. Some of |
| 1:58.8 | the best stuff takes a while to develop. You have to stick around to find out. Number eight, |
| 2:05.6 | marriage is not a place for contempt that will ruin any chance of true intimacy or trust and |
| 2:11.5 | dissolve the hope that wants might have existed. Number nine, marriage is not a 24-hour repair shop. |
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