And hello to you and welcome to the Richard Nichols podcast, the Personal Development podcast series that's here to help inspire, educate and motivated to be the best you can be.

I'm psychotherapist Richard Nichols, and this episode is titled Self-Sabotage.

And if you're ready, we'll start the show.

Hey there, everybody. Happy New Year.

How's tricks? You had a good weekend. I'm recording this on the Friday, so I can't tell you how my weekend's going to go yet.

A bit busy, probably. The in-laws are popping around for lunch on Saturday. Some friends are coming around for dinner tomorrow night, Saturday night, and I'm supposed to be meeting up with some other friends for Sunday lunch in some pub and then visiting somebody else in the evening to wish them a happy new year.

And I've got to do a tip run as well.

Got a lot of cardboard boxes and stuff that I dumped in my car boot.

I'll do it a bit later on today, but I promise Fiona we'd record another Therapy Natta's podcast,

because I can't do it next week because I've got to take my son back to university and stuff.

Ah, life's a nightmare.

Especially when I got talked into taking that CPD course as well, even though I know full well,

I'm probably going to be at half strength for all of these things because I'm stretching myself a bit thinly.

But I know I'm not alone.

If you've ever set a goal for yourself and then you found

yourself deliberately sticking a spanner in the works, knowing full well it'll cause you to fail,

then welcome to the human race, because everyone does it at some point. So I'm not going to

beat myself up over it. The problems come when it's not

so much a one-off, but a habit, an everyday occurrence that sabotages your goals, your self-esteem,

maybe even your relationship, if not your relationship with other people, definitely your

relationship with yourself. If you're not where you want to be in

life, for some reason, and you're not sure why, are you guilty of self-sabotage? Do you want to become

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