Alex met Sam at nursery. They were first love. They built forts together, shared sandwiches in high school, and were each other's first kiss.

They were the dream couple until Sam got into EDM music.

While Alex enjoyed folk, first loves a kind of like your current account. If they aren't working for you anymore,

maybe it's time to switch with the current account switch service. Any relationship that needs fixing, if it gets fixed, it's going to get fixed by you.

Any relationship that you want to change, the change agent is going to be you. So why am I calling this a relationship series?

Because the truth of the matter is relationships are not 50-50. Relationships are 100-100. You have to look at yourself as 100% responsible for your own destiny.

It's Dr. Phil, and you have found your way to installment number two of Relationship Reality Check, which I have subtitled. How much fun are you to live with?

Now, I've got a few questions for you. What if I were to tell you that I could predict with 90% accuracy right now, whether you were going to get a divorce or not?

Would you want to know that prediction? What if I told you that you were laboring under some major misconceptions about what relationships are all about, and whether or not you were doing the right thing to make yours work or not?

Would you want to know the answer to those questions? Well, we were talking last week. I was going over some things that probably didn't sound relationship oriented because I was talking about you.

And the reason I was talking about you, as you will recall, is I was saying the most important relationship you'll ever have, is the one that you have with yourself.

Because let's face it, if you don't like you, and you have to drag yourself with you everywhere you go, then you're going to show up with somebody you don't like.

And what kind of mood are you going to begin if you're showing up somewhere with somebody you don't like, even if that person is you.

And you're with you 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and so that can really get old. It can really irritate you.

So the first thing that I said you needed to do is get right with yourself, get honest with yourself. If there are things you don't like about you, I said we're going to have to talk about changing those things.

Remember I said you're a life manager and you have one client, and you have to do a job evaluation. You have to do an evaluation of how you're doing as a life manager.

And if you've managed yourself into a life of misery, depression, loneliness, poor health, financial ruin, constant stress, discord, conflict, then you're doing a crappy job of being a life manager.

The problem is you can't fire yourself so that means you got to coach yourself out of it and stick with it.

So I tried to bring your attention to that so you could stop blaming other people and say, look, I'm the one that's managing my life. So if it's not where I want it to be, I need to do a better job.

I need to change what I'm doing from the inside out. I need to stop blaming other people and realize I'm the one that put me here. Nobody made me do this.

I chose my partner. I chose my job. I chose my geography. I chose all of this and only I can change it. So that's why I started focusing on you.

Now assuming that you've been thinking about that, and I certainly hope you have, I want to start talking to you about how that interplays with the relationship you have in your life.

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