On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and guest host Courtney Martin discuss triumphs and fails, co-housing and Courtney’s new book, Learning in Public: Lessons for a Racially Divided America from My Daughter's School.  Then they answer a question from a listener who is wondering how to help her child adapt to wearing a uniform at school while still encouraging self-expression. Jamilah suggested to mix things up by adding in fun ties, like this one she dressed her daughter in a few years ago. In Slate Plus: When should we talk to our kids about sex? According to researchers, much earlier than you may think! NY Times - Sex Talks Should Start Earlier Than You Think  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends online vintage shopping. And if you’re worried about sizing, pay attention to the fabric! Stretch is key.  Elizabeth recommends pelvic floor PT to help with pelvic weakness. One resource she mentioned is this instagram page. Courtney recommends subscribing to the Substack Newsletter by Sarah Wheeler called Momspreading. You can read Courtney’s piece in The Nation here. Jamilah’s piece in The Nation can be found here. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery.  Hosts  Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Courtney Martin is an author and political activist. She’s the author of four books, including Learning in Public and The New Better Off. You can find out more about her at her website: https://www.courtneyemartin.com Social @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @courtwrites on Twitter https://twitter.com/courtwrites Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices