Relationships are so confusing and we enter them and we exit them for so many different reasons

and the fact that the relationship no longer exists does not devalue that the relationship existed.

And this is what happens when we think they're in a relationship with someone else that automatically lessens the value of my relationship with that person. And that's just not true.

They're just in a different relationship. And I think understanding that maybe we were not a good

fit for them does not mean that we are not a good fit for someone else or that we're worthless.

So our worth is really not connected to our fit with someone

else. And so I think a lot of the frustration and the jealousy and the hurt occurs when our

sense of current identity is still tied to this person. And when we are struggling with our

beliefs and narratives around relationships. So if we think like if a

relationship fails, I failed. If they moved on quickly, that means it didn't matter. So really catching

ourselves in these beliefs and assumptions is really important and then unpacking them and going,

why are they here? Where do they stem from? And are they serving me?

What does it truly mean when we say closure comes from us?

And what if we feel like the relationship isn't really over?

You're listening to Unsween and Unfiltered the podcast episode five of season four. When you really think about it, no one ever really goes away completely.

They either live in our minds, our hearts, or both. And from time to time, we may find ourselves

in a chapter in our lives where we may be dealing with a generous amount of

unanswered questions and the lingering feeling of not knowing if we made the right choice,

from dealing with a relationship ending to trusting yourself again, and of course the struggles

we face when giving and receiving the honest and at times brutal truth. We can't help but to desperately search for the

closure we need in order to move forward in life. When focusing on the topic of honesty, I find

myself searching for it, but am I really ready to receive it? Unfiltered and void of it being

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