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From The New York Times and WBUR Boston, this is Modern Love.

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Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption.

I'm your host, Megna Chakrabardi.

You know the phase, the one where you're going back and forth between your place and your partners, and you have to bring all your stuff with you.

But when is it time to make a change?

Diana Clevacy writes about that question in her essay, Security in a Bright Yellow Suitcase.

It's read by Christina Hendrix.

She starred as Joan in Mad Men, and you can see her now in Good Girls on NBC.

On more than one occasion, I have rolled my Bright Yellow Carry-On Suitcase into the office on a Monday morning to the confusion of my co-workers.

Where did you go this weekend, they would ask, the Hamptons?

No, I would reply.

95th and Broadway.

My suitcase contains little pots of beauty products, sample size toothpaste, and my shampoo and TSA approved three ounce bottles.

I have a folding hairdryer, folding toothbrush, and a folding dop kit to keep everything organized.

My heels and sneakers complement each other's shape in one corner of the suitcase, with my delicate glasses tightly rolled in the other.

As I must be prepared for morning meetings, happy hours, dinner plans, and snuggle sessions.

Ultimately, I aspire to pack everything I need without suggesting that my boyfriend is my everything.

When our relationship began, I would arrive at his place with a nonchalant canvas tote,

shoving in cheap, wrinkled proof dresses for the next day, as if our sleepovers were accidental.

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