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This is Laura.

Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

Today's tip is that you can reshape a memory.

Particularly if you have had a negative experience in the past that continues to bother you to some degree,

you might be able to highlight a particular part of that memory that shows something you like about yourself.

That can make a negative memory a little less bad.

I am sure we have all had experiences in our lives that haven't gone exactly how we wanted.

If we're not careful, these can scar pretty deeply.

For instance, I know someone who had a rough start to college and wound up needing

to withdraw with failing grades.

Yikes, right?

This person was smart enough to go to college and had family members who were incredibly proud of them

for doing so, and then that happened.

The first story that comes to mind is failure.

But after some dark months, this person decided to try again, with lots of studying and organizational help.

And she wound up doing okay.

With some work, she was able to reshape the original memory.

There is a difference between failing at something specific and being a failure.

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