Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. How are y'all doing? Let's do a little bit of a check-in.

It's always, how's your day going? How's your week? How's your month? What do you need? What do you need more of?

What do you need less of? It's not always about bringing stuff in. Sometimes it's about closing off access.

That can be hard for some of us. It's hard for

someone like myself. I don't know if you can imagine, but if not, let's go there. How often people are

DMing, calling, texting just to like, you know, how do they say it? Can we just grab coffee? I just

want to pick your brain for a minute. It's like, that's what I do all day long at work. And so for me, what I need to do in service of my own mental health and self-care is to set boundaries. If I'm not doing clinical work, then I'm not doing clinical work. And it's a hard boundary to hold with people I care about. Hey, I just did a full day of clinical work. I can't sit here and do, you know, any more emotional processing or holding that container for someone.

I want to laugh. I want to talk about my stuff. I need to do the opposite of my job. So I pose that

to you all as a question. What might your work or your daily routine require that others in your life or the world is also

maybe wanting that you need to set a boundary around. I can't imagine, unless this is something you

have joy in, because for some people, they're like, no, I love it. But rough example, I can't imagine

being a chef and maybe cooking for people all day and then having to come home and yet again cook for someone.

Or maybe you love that, but that might be a boundary. You said, hey, I cook all day when I? What do I need less of? What do I need to set a boundary around? Where am I burn out? We're not trying to live in burnout. You know, a lot of us wait until we're burn out to do what we need to do. I want us to not get there. That's why I say often on the show, 70% max is what we're doing. We're not giving anything 100%. That's depletion. Give everything, you know, a certain level and reserve stuff for yourself.

I use this example and metaphor in the show before, but I think it's really beautiful.

And a client actually brought it up this week.

And I was like, oh, this is always so meaningful.

So all of us are, you know, our genetics, the social environments were part of, different life experiences, the current structures, we exist

within all impact, how much energy we wake up with each day. And we don't necessarily have enough

energy every day or every week to do what is required. And we have to though nonetheless think in

those terms and maybe take some things off our plate because we're not trying to burn out.

We're not trying to be perfect. We're not trying to be perfect.

We're not trying to do 100%.

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