Season 4 Episode 16: Why You Cannot Find "The One"

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 30 May 2017

⏱️ 217 minutes

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Heidi Isern tells us why you cannot find 'the one” – and why hunting for that person is just too much pressure. We talk about how to navigate in a mirage of endless options, what it means to ‘settle’, and the importance of staying open beyond the ideal person in your head. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hey, we want to meet you. Would you like to meet us too? The correct answer is, yes. So we're having a joint happy hour with our friends at 941 Social Club on Thursday June 22nd.
0:16.5	It's actually more of a bar crawl in the marina that will start at 7 p.m.
0:20.5	The datable team along with some past guests will be at the Palm House starting at 9 PM.
0:26.0	And the best part is, you're going to get free drinks.
0:29.0	Find out how by checking out our Facebook page under Datable Podcast.
0:33.7	Hope to see you then.
0:37.0	The Datable Podcast is hosted by me, I'm U.A.
0:40.5	A former dating coach in New York turned active dater in San Francisco.
0:44.8	On each episode you'll hear commentary by my producer Julie Kraftchick and other surprise
0:49.6	co-hosts.
0:50.9	This episode of Datable is brought to you by 500 Brunches.
0:54.0	500 Brunches connects like-minded people with similar interests to meet in real life over
0:59.3	brunch.
1:00.3	You answer a quick questionnaire about your interests and how you spend your time, and then they'll match you in small groups of 6 to 8 at a brunch spot in San Francisco.
1:09.0	Get a free entry into a brunch now by signing up at 500 branches.com and using the code date able.
1:17.0	Hey everyone welcome to another episode of Datable, a show that opens up a candid conversation
1:26.3	about dating in San Francisco.
1:29.5	Before I introduce our guest today, I just want to read a little excerpt from her article
1:35.5	from almost a year ago. The article is called Why You Cannot Find the One.
1:49.2	Hunting for a single person to be your one, the ballerina, the poet, the bank account, and the parent is all too much pressure for someone you don't know yet.
1:52.2	The one is created over time by slowly
1:54.7	on dressing who they are, not what they should be. And those were the wise
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