Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly, an I Heart Radio podcast.

Okay, so I want to talk about something that has happened to me a few times recently

that I have noticed that friends have unfollowed me on social media.

It's not that I have an app that tells me when this happens, I just happen to randomly go to their page

and see if they're still following me and I've realized that they haven't.

It was a friend that I was really close with and we were at one point in my life very, very close.

And I have a lot of friends that I would say that we are really close at one point in time.

And just as time has gone on, you drift apart whether you don't live in the same city

or you're doing different things, your life's going in different directions.

And I've never thought that there was anything bad enough to happen with a lot of these people

that it was enough for them to not want to see my face on social media app.

But I have always wondered what's the motive for it.

I totally get in breakups when someone unfollows them because they're trying to move on

and seeing that person's face or seeing what they're doing is hurtful.

But in a friendship, I've wondered what is the point or why would you have to do that

unless you had like a blow up fight and it was very obvious.

I was totally oblivious to the situation.

I think that's what made it hurt my feeling so much was because I thought what did I do to deserve the ultimate punishment of being unfollowed?

It hurts.

And it makes me feel like I'm in middle school because why does that pain feel so familiar?

It's like, you know, I remember being in fifth grade and I had my friend Sydney and Leslie.

And when Sydney and Leslie would have slumber parties without me, it hurt my feelings because they didn't invite me.

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