School Gets the Best of Them, We Get the Rest of Them with Dr. Lisa Damour

Raising Good Humans

Voicing Change Media

Education, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 10 October 2025

⏱️ 54 minutes

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In this episode, I sit down with one of my favorite guests, Dr. Lisa Damour—psychologist, teen whisperer, and New York Times bestselling author—to talk about what’s really going on when your tween or teen turns you into their emotional dumping ground. We break down what’s typical versus when to worry, how to respond without absorbing it all, and simple scripts that actually help. We also explore Dr. Lisa’s signature ideas like “school gets the best of them, we get the rest of them,” how to spot rumination, and ways to listen without fixing—so you can stay steady while your teen works through the ups and downs of growing up. I WROTE MY FIRST BOOK! Order your copy of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans Here: https://bit.ly/3rMLMsL Subscribe to my free newsletter for parenting tips delivered straight to your inbox: draliza.substack.com Follow me on Instagram for more: @raisinggoodhumanspodcast Sponsors: Suvie: Go to Suvie.com/Humans to get 16 free meals when you order Asics: Visit asics.com and use code HUMANS at checkout for $10 off your order of $100 or more. Exclusions may apply Nurture Life: For 55% off your order + FREE shipping, head to NurtureLife.com/HUMANS and use codeHUMANS FlavCity: Visit Shop FlavCity.com and use code GOODHUMAN15 at checkout for 15% off your first purchase Kiwico: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code RGH Saks: Head to saks.com Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a Dear Media production.
0:09.7	Welcome to Raising Good Humans podcast.
0:12.7	I'm Dr. Lisa Pressman, and today I have one of my favorites, Dr. Lisa D'Amore, a repeat guest
0:19.5	on the podcast, Teen Whisper, New York Times bestselling author
0:24.6	of The Brilliant Untangled Under Pressure and the Emotional Lives of Teenagers.
0:29.5	And she also joined me and we did the master class called The Science of Parenting.
0:37.4	It's awesome. It's a three-part series. You can check it
0:41.1	out wherever you get your masterclasses. I think just masterclass.com. Today we're talking about
0:47.4	when adolescents use you as their sort of emotional dumping ground, how to respond, what it means, when to worry,
0:56.3	when to relax. And she's just the most brilliant at translating adolescence. So I love sharing
1:06.8	her work with you. If you enjoy this episode, go ahead and give it a five-star rating and write
1:12.5	a little review and tell me what you want to hear about so I can keep giving you more episodes
1:18.0	that you're looking for. Something I think we hear all the time is that our teenagers are being really bristly or prickly or whatever you want to call it,
1:35.1	or complaining or dumping or just seeming like if you just looked at that,
1:42.8	you would think things are not okay. And so I wanted to talk to you
1:46.7	about like the kinds of conversations that we might have with our kids where it's like normal
1:52.3	dumping and the kind where you're like, this is, this feels like it's getting out of hand.
1:57.6	And then generally speaking, like responding to that because they live in the real world
2:02.9	and we don't want them to get too comfortable just like treating somebody like an actual
2:09.1	trash can.
2:11.8	But like we want to be received, you know, like receive something.
2:16.0	So it's all just garbledbled but you make everything untangled oh
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