SC 66 - Fault vs Responsibility

Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Relationshippodcast, Sex, Relationshipadvice, Society & Culture, Jaysongaddispodcast, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 981 Ratings

🗓️ 24 August 2016

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Maureen writes “I’ve really lost interest in your work since you said on your webinar that if you get cheated on it’s your fault.” Thanks Maureen for prompting this episode because so many people get “fault” confused with “responsibility.” This episode sets it straight. I clear up what it means to choose to be a victim and to choose to be empowered. Even when someone does something “to you.” After you listen, please share your feedback in The Smart Couple Facebook Group.

Also check out the blog post on the same subject here.

SHOWNOTES

Why people love and hate meditation. [3:30]
The difference between fault and responsibility. [6:15]
The best way to get back into the driver’s seat of your own empowerment. [9:30]
How to not get cheated on again. [10:15]
The difference between the victim and the empowered person. [12:00]
Jayson’s challenge for the listener. [19:30]

Transcript

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0:00.0	Long-term relationship is a little bit of a meat grinder. So, Hello and welcome back to the Smart Couple Podcast episode 66. I'm your host
0:32.2	Jason Gattis and I'm here to dispel any myths and fantasies about
0:37.2	relationship and intimacy particularly when it comes to long-term
0:40.9	relationship.
0:43.0	So this podcast is about cutting through the BS
0:46.7	about you find the one and everything is great
0:50.1	and you're happy.
0:51.3	And instead, inserting a realistic framework and tools that you can use that actually work to lead you to a fulfilling long-term relationship, which by the way does not mean absent of challenges
1:06.1	and pain and frustration. Quite the contrary.
1:09.8	Fulfilment means I can handle pleasure in pain in equal amounts and I'm not going to let that take me out.
1:19.0	I am not going to sit and try to maintain good feelings all the time and running from bad ones and
1:25.6	I'm also not going to sit in my shit and feel bad about myself in the bad feelings and
1:32.1	compare myself everybody. It means I'm going to hold both and learn
1:37.5	how to work with the challenge that relationship inevitably brings and also work with the beautiful
1:45.0	bliss that doesn't seem to last in our relationships, you know, and everything in
1:51.5	between.
1:53.0	So one of my teachers said years ago that the path is like a meat grinder.
2:00.0	You know, it kind of puts you in and spits you out the other side and a bunch of pieces.
2:04.8	And it was a little extreme, but long-term relationship is a little bit of a meat grinder and it's really not for everybody. It's not. And a lot of people that mute their experience, their feelings, and their needs can stay married for decades upon decades and be very unfulfilled.
2:30.0	And dissatisfied, but make it work because they go to TV, they go to alcohol, they go to painkillers,
2:38.0	and whatever else to medicate their experience away, because if you are that person and you took a look
2:47.1	There would be a lot of discomfort and pain that you're
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