Doing the work means everyday practicing relationship tools until they become second nature. the Hey, greetings everyone. Welcome back to the Smart Couple Podcast, Episode 61.

Hope you're enjoying your morning, evening, midday, wherever you are at.

And I'm grateful to have your ear for a little bit.

The Smart Couple Podcast, if you're just joining us

or returning, here's a little refresher.

What we're about is becoming intelligent about the ways we do intimacy and long-term partnership.

And that requires a little bit of thought and developing ourselves,

flexing weak muscles and working out at the relationship gym.

And if you do that, you put some effort in and you learn some tools, you are destined to have a fulfilling great relationship.

If on the other hand you hope and pray or expect to be good at relationship

when you never learned, then you're probably going to frustrate and fail like I used to. So, you know, it's up to you and I appreciate you the listener because it's

a likely that you're in the development camp and you're willing to at least entertain the possibility of working on yourself

if not being full on at developing yourself.

And I would argue that the degree to which you develop yourself is the degree to which you are going to have a deep fulfilling relationship.

So however deep I go in myself is how deep I can go with you.

If I'm not willing to go deep in myself,

we are going to have a relationship that's more shallow and superficial,

which is fine, those relationships can work in the short term,

but they can't really cut the mustard in the long run.

All right?

So in this episode we have a lot of questions from

listeners like you who have written in or used the voicemail app,

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