I've known you now for gosh probably eight or so years and I used to not like you. So, Hey, what's up? Welcome back to the smart couple. This is Jason Gatis, your host, and I am, as usual, very surprised at how many people think they can get a good relationship by doing nothing about it.

It boggles my mind that some folks want their relationship to improve and they don't want to put any effort in.

You know, there's a part of human nature that really surprises me and yet I find

it in myself, which is this quality we have to take the path of least resistance whenever and wherever possible.

Give me the easiest thing I can do, please.

And I love to create hacks to simplify my life and my relationships.

And at the end of the day, if I want to go the distance in anything,

I need to put a lot of effort in. So the smart couple knows this. You get that

effort is required if you want a deep connection with your partner. Effort is required if you want to get out of that same dumb looping fight that you always find yourself in, right?

That's the smart couple and both parties are able to look in the mirror and take responsibility

for their part.

Yes, we want this in a relationship.

And in order to get that,

this smart couple knows,

let's bust our ass.

All right.

Yeah, I mean, as Henry Rollins says, nothing good comes without work and a certain amount of pain.

I'm with Henry.

Remember Henry, punster, dude, Rollins Band? Anyway that quote is

kick ass because that feels true in my life and the best things in my life come when I have busted my ass to get them.

I mean, look at the thing in your life that you're really good at, right?

You're probably good at something. And my guess is, if you look closely, you had to work very hard for many years to get good at that thing you do, that skill you have, right? That's what's required in

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