SC 194 - 3 Ways For Couples To Make Tough Decisions Together - Ellyn Bader
The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 999 Ratings
🗓️ 2 May 2018
⏱️ 62 minutes
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Summary
Jayson met up with renowned couples therapy expert and author, Ellyn Bader, at this year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA. WOW, was she a treasure trove of insight. Not just theories and concepts, but insight that can be used every day.
SHOWNOTES:
- Who is Ellyn Bader? [3:00]
- Anxiety vs Growth-Promoting Anxiety in Relationship [7:00]
- Three Different Decision-Making Strategies For Couples [16:00]
- Ellyn’s Insight for Therapists [21:00]
- Why Telling Your Partner What You "Need" Can be Problematic [29:00]
- The Confusion Around Differentiation vs Individuation [37:00]
- What Ellyn Means When She Asks, "Are You a Lie Invitee?" [47:00]
For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Ellyn Bader visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast194
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| 0:00.0 | With my clients I encourage them not to use the word need. |
| 0:03.4 | Is that like a that seems like kind of taboo in your world? |
| 0:06.2 | It's like a dirty word to me. |
| 0:08.8 | And I know it's not popular. |
| 0:10.2 | I know you're like you know some of your listeners are probably going to go what |
| 0:13.1 | the heck is she talking about. So, Hello and welcome back to another episode of The |
| 0:37.0 | Relationship Schools Smart Couple Podcast where we help you get very empowered in your relational life. |
| 0:47.0 | And we focus on long-term relationships, |
| 0:49.0 | and really you can benefit by listening here with all your relationships. Have you noticed that? |
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