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Savage Lovecast Episode 868

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.76.3K Ratings

🗓️ 6 June 2023

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

A straight man detests condoms with all his heart. Even the thought of putting on one of those rubbers makes him deflate like the ears on a 2-day-old balloon rabbit. Is this a fetish of some kind? It prevents him from having sex and it’s bumming him out. There seems to be a fair bit of confusion about silicone sex toys and lube. Can silicone lube harm silicone sex toys? Or do they love each other so much? Dan hops on the phone with Searah Deysach from Chicago’s Early to Bed sex toy store, to set the record straight. On the Magnum, things get heavy with a slew of questions concerning sexual abuse and trauma. Consider yourself trigger-warned. Dan brings on Dr. Leila Wood, a researcher and social worker at Austin’s Center for Sexual Violence Prevention. They talk about how to support a friend in an abusive relationship, the difficulty partners can have in playing the “villain” in erotic contexts and how kinky sex can be profoundly healing. Finally, why all the hate for Mother’s Day? Can’t we all just get along? [email protected] 206-302-2064 Foria Wellness Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage Helix Sleep This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get 20% off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE. Talkspace This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com and use the offer code Savage.

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0:00.0

You're listening to the microversion of the Savage Love cast at Savage.loaf.

0:23.4

It's June. It's Pride Month and I thought to kick off Pride Month, I would do a little

0:28.2

counter-programming and check in on all the straight people, at least some of the famous ones.

0:32.7

But first, I called it. Back in March, when Tennessee's drag band was signed into law by

0:37.6

Tennessee's GOP governor who once did drag in front of a bunch of kids,

0:42.4

I said that Tennessee's drag band was obviously unconstitutional, that there was no way

0:48.3

that drag band could survive a court challenge. Well, the US District Judge Thomas Parker,

0:53.4

a fucking Trump appointee threw it out last week, just in time for Pride, writing that the law

0:59.6

violates First Amendment Freedom of Speech Protections and was unconstitutionally vague and

1:04.6

substantially overbroad. So congrats to all the queens in Nashville who can go to Pride and

1:11.4

melt in the sun this month without risking a rest. There are sure to be appeals, but for now,

1:16.4

drag is legal in Tennessee. All right, so how are the straight people doing?

1:23.0

Not great. Taylor Swift is dating a guy who said some shitty things on a podcast, a pop star that

1:29.2

I've never heard of before and whose name I already don't remember even after reading a long

1:34.1

profile of him in this week's New Yorker. I just don't have room in my brain to store the names

1:38.8

of any new celebrities and my takeaway from that profile. Besides, yeah, he said some very shitty

1:44.7

things on a podcast is Taylor Swift's new boyfriend smokes way too much. There's an online

1:50.3

petition circulating signed by thousands of Swifties. Those are Taylor Swift fans who are in a

1:55.8

very creepy parosocial relationship with Taylor Swift. They're demanding the signers of that

2:00.6

petition that Swift dump her problematic boyfriend. I don't want to encourage people to dump

2:06.2

romantic partners who said something stupid on a podcast once. That is not in my self-interest.

2:11.6

I don't want to wake up single tomorrow, so I am not going to weigh in on what Taylor Swift

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