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Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast Episode 863

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.66.4K Ratings

🗓️ 2 May 2023

⏱️ 49 minutes

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Summary

A very vanilla woman is so vanilla that she “doesn’t know what a kink is.” That’s really vanilla! Here’s a complicated three-way situation: He is the top with his husband. But he is the sub for his Dom boyfriend. When the three get together, who does what? On the Magnum we welcome back Dr. Carlton Thomas, the intrepid gastroenterologist who fears no anal sex question. Example! One caller wants his butt to feel raw from rough use. Then, a woman wants to stretch her asshole for her boyfriend and wonders if it will snap back. They talk about giant sex toys, sex toys getting lost up there, Bengay as lube and more! Listen in!  And, more tamely, a woman worries that her boyfriend’s halitosis bodes ill for oral sex. Could she get an infection from his stinky spit?  Send us your Qs. Dan will give you an A Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get $20% off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE.

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0:00.0

You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast at Savage. Love.

0:04.8

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

0:14.4

well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.

0:22.9

I guess I've failed.

0:25.2

According to a story in The Guardian, fewer people these days are having sex.

0:29.9

There's a steep rise in what Guardian feature writer, I mean, Sainer, calls the voluntarily

0:35.5

celibate.

0:36.7

People who've had sex and maybe could have sex again, but can't be arced, as the Brits

0:41.9

would say, to have sex now or ever again possibly.

0:46.4

Sainer cites the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior in the United States,

0:49.9

which found a steep rise in young people, adolescents, who reported no sexual activity at all,

0:55.5

partnered or alone, 28.8% to 44.2% of young men and from 49.5 to 74% of young women.

1:07.0

That's a lot of young people, particularly guys who aren't jerking off or not willing to admit

1:12.2

they're even jerking off. It's also an enormous range, those percentages, somewhere between

1:18.3

28.8 and 44.2% of young men and 49.5 and 74% of young women that spread. Those spreads kind of makes you doubt the data.

1:30.3

But let's take it at face value.

1:32.8

Quoting from Sainer's piece in The Guardian,

1:34.6

the studies author raised several possible contributing factors,

1:37.3

including gaming and social media,

1:39.5

taking time and precedence,

1:40.7

more awareness of asexuality as an identity,

1:43.5

a decline in alcohol use, and an

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