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Savage Lovecast Episode 812

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 17 May 2022

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

An Australian woman in her mid 20s fondly remembers the intimate online relationship she had throughout high school. She thought he was 20, and though they never met in person, they would chat well into the early hours every night. Recently, she became curious about what became of him. She learned that he was in fact 35 at the time, with a wife and kids. When she confronted him, he was self-pitying in his defense. This relationship was good for her at the time. But the lie is galling, and if he did this to her, is he still pretending to be someone he isn’t for other young women/girls? Should she tell his wife and blow up his life?  It’s hard to be ethically non-monogamous! It really is! This is what a man and his wife have learned after she cheated on him with a man who was cheating on *his* wife. Are there resources for folks trying to be open and honest?  Our all time favorite dominatrix, Mistress Matisse is back to discuss a few thorny issues. 1) Can we call ourselves and our pals “whore” in a sex-positive “take it back” kind of way? Or is the word off-limits unless you are an actual sex worker? 2) After 4 months, a sex worker in her 30s has fallen in love with her 64 year-old married client. Now what? And, 3) a woman is super annoyed that her husband needs to process their relationship for hours before he will finally fuck her already. You’ll hear question #1 on the Micro and all of them on the Magnum. Finally, a man with an 8 inch penis is using a penis extender to get even more length. He’s been wearing the device for two months, but he’s beginning to lose sensitivity. Is he putting his Weiner in danger? Is it worth it?  Yes and no. voicemail@savagelovecast.com        206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage Support for the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by MANSCAPED™ , the best in men’s below-the-waist grooming. MANSCAPED™ offers precision-engineered tools for your family jewels. MANSCAPED™ just launched their fourth generation trimmer, The Lawn Mower® 4.0. Get 20% off and free worldwide shipping with the code: Lovecast at manscaped.com.

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0:00.0

You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast at savage.love.

0:05.0

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

0:14.4

well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast. I don't like to open my usually fun, usually light, sex advice podcast with bad news,

0:29.1

with grief and rage and despair.

0:31.9

That's not what you come here for.

0:33.7

I get it.

0:35.2

And sometimes I can ignore a story that's dominating the news, but other times,

0:39.5

it would seem unforgivably insensitive of me to do that. And this is one of those times.

0:47.1

My heart breaks for the victims of the white supremacist terrorist in Buffalo, New York.

0:52.6

An 18-year-old man, armed with an AR-15, walked into a

0:57.2

supermarket in a black neighborhood, and shot 13 people killing 10. I ache for the families and friends

1:04.3

of the victims, all of them, victims of racism of white supremacy, and victims of Fox News and the radicalized Republican Party.

1:14.2

Fox News and the GOP took the Great Replacement Theory, the idea that there's an active

1:20.8

conspiracy to replace white voters in the United States with black and brown people from all

1:25.3

over the world who will supposedly vote for Democrats.

1:28.5

This is the reason the great replacement conspiracy theory is the reason this white supremacist

1:35.0

terrorist gave for shooting little old black ladies out shopping for groceries.

1:40.7

Fox News lifted that poison from the message boards of white supremacist websites and pumped

1:47.1

it into American living rooms and airport bars and army bases and truck stops and sports bars

1:54.2

and into the mainstream of the GOP. Other countries have right-wingers. The terrorist who massacre 10 people in

2:03.1

Buffalo modeled his attack on the mosque massacre in Christchurch, New Zealand, right down to

2:09.4

live-streaming it on the internet. But within days of the attack in Christchurch, New Zealand

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