Savage Lovecast #687

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 24 December 2019

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

A formerly repressed man is discovering his wild side. He and his wife like to do it in quasi-public in the mountains. He just got her a remote controlled vibrator, and wants to see if he can get her off in a restaurant. But is this ethical? Will people notice? Dan interviews the co-author of a study that finds that women tend to trust gay male shopkeepers over women shopkeepers. They theorize that women find another woman selling beauty products and clothes can't be trusted because their reptile brains tell them they in competition for mates. So that's depressing... Merry Christmas! An 18 year-old woman has started seeing a 21 year-old guy who claimed he was celibate, but sure doesn't act like it. She thinks he's lying to himself and her. She just wants to bone him already. Should she put him out of his celibate misery? And finally, did ya'll know they sell octopus at Costco? This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by : a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Blue Apron. Check out this week’s menu and get $60 off at

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0:00.0	You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast, www.com.
0:05.8	Have you been naughty or nice?
0:13.0	If you're stuck in a relationship, quandaryary or if you're looking for sexual
0:23.9	Happy holidays, everybody. I hope you're having to have a lot. I'm happy special case.
0:51.9	Happy holidays, everybody. I hope you're having a good winter break. I hope you're having a great Christmas. If Christmas is your thing or a great Hanukkah or whatever else, whatever your thing is. I hope you're having a good one.
0:56.9	We release these shows on Tuesdays, and this year, Christmas Eve happens to fall on Tuesday.
1:00.8	And this particular Tuesday happens to fall right in the middle of Hanukkah.
1:05.8	So lots of you out there probably won't even be listening to today's episode until later in the week,
1:08.3	maybe on the drive or flight back home.
1:13.6	But some of you are listening right now on Christmas Eve, the day the show came out.
1:18.9	Some of you are listening right now because you're alone, and you'll want to check out the opening of last year's Christmas week show for my advice on getting through Christmas alone.
1:23.3	But some of you are listening right now in a room full of people who make you feel alone,
1:28.3	make you feel disrespected, judged, shamed.
1:32.0	And to keep the peace, to avoid being accused of ruining Christmas, you grin and bear it and count the minutes and pop in your earbuds to listen to a few podcasts.
1:42.2	I want to let those of you who are listening right now know whether you you're alone or alone in a roomful of people, that I'm thinking about you. And I'm rooting for you. And I know you can get through this because you've gotten through it before. And if what you're getting it, quote, unquote, home right now is why can't you be different? why must you be different, or some variation on you aren't good enough, or why can't you change,
2:05.3	and if that's why you're listening right now to escape all that, I want to let you know that
2:10.2	you don't have to be different. You don't have to change. You just have to be you, but you can
2:15.5	change things. Home is a choice, family too. If you can't find people
2:20.6	back, quote unquote, home who celebrate your sexual orientation, respect your gender identity.
2:26.0	If you can't find people there who embrace your choice of a partner singular or partners plural
2:30.8	or your choice not to have a partner at all, that's not your home.
2:35.4	And you don't have to return there next year.
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