Savage Love Episode 993

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.7 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 11 November 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

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A mother's challenge: her 12 year-old son's lesbian friend (who isn't out to her parents,) said that she was into gooning. Right in front of her! The mom wants to be an ally, but also would like them to back off on the oversharing. Sometimes on a sex advice podcast, you have to call a veterinarian. A man's new girlfriend, (a professed "animal lover,") lets the cat hump her leg to completion. He thinks this is kind of gross. Dan brings on a veterinarian from Seattle's Urban Animal to confirm if it is indeed "gross." On the Magnum, we all know that LENGTH DOES NOT MATTER. But what about... girth? Sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick is on to talk about the physiology of female pleasure. Also, she and Dan discuss the continuing bewildering popularity of choking. A woman has a fantastic, indulgent, skilled lover. She is loud but non-verbal when she comes. He wants to know exactly when she is going over the falls. How can she let him know without having to say "NOW!" You should ask Dan a question NOW! [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Erika Lust.com -the world’s leading platform for ethical, cinematic adult films. Right now, my listeners get 45% off your subscription when you enter the code SAVAGE45 at erikalust.com. That’s Erika Lust with a k! Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 20 states. Carafem’s team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit Carafem.org to learn more. Subscribe to the Magnum⁠ for the full interviews, chats with Dan, and more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to pegging, gay rights to gooning and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's Sex and Relationship Show for grownups.
0:05.1	If you're under 18, get out of here, young.
0:08.5	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary,
0:12.2	or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:17.9	while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:26.5	So we got two shitty rulings from two shitty courts this week.
0:30.5	First of federal appeals court, the fight in Fifth Circuit gave Texas to go ahead to enforce a ban on sexually explicit drag performances, at least on public
0:38.9	property, which is a clear violation of the First Amendment, not that anybody cares.
0:42.8	And the U.S. Supreme Court, our highest and shittiest court, issued an emergency order to block
0:47.9	snap payments. Those are food stamps, boomers, food stamps, because making sure Americans go
0:53.2	hungry is an emergency that...
0:55.7	Dan! Dan, it's Peter. Dan, Peter Rothputz, what are you doing, brother? Peter, Peter Rothpletz?
1:03.0	Contributing writer to the Guardian and author of Ziteo's New Morning Newsletter? The same Peter
1:08.5	Rothplutz, whose writing has been featured in the new Republic, The Hill, and on MSNBC, the same Peter Rothpletz, who wrote an essay about gay men and
1:15.5	hooters for the New York Times that went crazy viral earlier this year. That Peter Rothpletz wants
1:20.6	to know what I'm doing. Yes, Dan, that Peter Rothplets wants to know what the hell you're doing.
1:25.9	I am doing the intro to my podcast,
1:27.7	Peter. I do it every week. What are you doing? I am holding an intervention, Dan. We got the best
1:33.3	political news we've had all year. The dams racked up huge, huge wins. And you're doing a doom and gloom
1:41.3	intro? What are you thinking? Peter, the election was a week ago. There's been bad news since. Hells there's been bad news that came in just today about Dems in the
1:49.5	Senate, caving. Dan, Dan, Dan, Dan, Dan, you got to take a moment to celebrate the wins.
1:54.7	Knowing we can win motivates people to get out there and fight. And we had some massive wins last week.
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