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for details. Hey, Dan. I'm a 20-year-old straight female, and I've recently reconnected with an old

fuck buddy after like a year apart.

The big difference between the two times is that now I give him head, and he's also the first

person that's ever come in my mouth, and he knows that.

He really likes getting head, but he has a really fucked up perception of what head is. To me, it's kind of a big deal because I think it's a lot more intimate than vaginal sex. I was the first thing is his head, and he's 20 because he always turns other girls down because he thought girls only gave head if they didn't want to have sex, and I explained that it was the total opposite for me. We talked up a few times since we reconnected, and he's never gone down on me. Our sex is really good, but he's really into, I mean, really into, like, my nipples and making me squirm, but not oral. I asked him if he's ever gone down on a girl, and he said, no, I just think it's kind of weird, and asked if I wanted him to go down on me,

and I gave him a sarcastic, I guess not, and he said, good. My question is, do you think I'm just too conservative at all and reading into the situation too much or do you think it's worth a try to change his mind? And if it is, what should I say to him? All right. I tried to call you, but I couldn't get you because I had to listen to music while I waited for your phone to fucking find you. And the music was rap. And there's only so much rap I'm willing to listen to, uh, to help somebody out with a head problem. Um, and you have a head problem and it's not just between

your legs or the fact that his head isn't between your legs. It's what's between your fucking

ears, lady. When he said, I guess you want me to go down on you, the correct response was

not, I guess not sarcastic. The correct response was, you bet your fucking life, douchebag.

And you have leverage here.

You're going down on him.

You're blowing him to completion.

You're allowing him to come in your mouth, which is terribly gracious of you, I must say.

And he has to learn to eat and like pussy.

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