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Savage Lovecast

Savage Love Episode 602

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.66.4K Ratings

🗓️ 8 May 2018

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out Dr. Brotto's book . And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code: savage.

Transcript

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0:00.0

You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast, www.com.

0:06.6

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

0:16.3

well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.

0:24.7

So I wrote a blog post after the van attack in Toronto, after another angry in-cell,

0:30.0

the third by my count, went on a killing spree.

0:32.8

And my blog post opened with an embedded tweet.

0:35.3

Rachel Fagan tweeted,

0:36.9

Sex worker women are not a separate

0:38.5

class of women who exist to absorb the rage, anxiety, and sexualized violence of men so that

0:44.5

other women are quote unquote safe. They are also human women with the right to safety from violent

0:50.4

men. And then this for me. I agree with Rachel Fagan, I wrote. I have friends who do

0:56.0

sex work, women and men, and they are not human shields. Their lives are valuable, and they're not

1:01.5

here to soak up male rage. They deserve safe working conditions, and they deserve our respect,

1:07.1

not despite the work they do, but because of it. I continued, I have no sympathy for in-cells

1:13.4

involuntary celibates lurking in dark corners of the internet cheering on misogynistic violence.

1:19.3

I have no sympathy for anyone who picks up a gun or gets in a van and mows down women on their

1:25.1

way to class or work. So imagine my shock when I fired up the Twitter last night and read this.

1:32.4

A number of people, including Dan Savage, have suggested sex workers as one way to head off anger in involuntary celibates.

1:42.5

Yeah, no, not quite what I said. Actually, nowhere near what I said. I said

1:48.2

the opposite, in fact. I don't know how you get from sex workers are not human shields. They're

1:54.0

not here to soak up male rage to Dan Savage thinks we should throw sex workers to the angry,

1:59.2

raging incels. So let's try this again.

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