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So I got an email today right before we started to record the podcast, and I'm just going to read it.

Hey, Dan, I love your show, your rants, your energy, your opinion.

One tiny thing that irks me, every time you mention your husband, Terry, you switch tone and pronounce it my husband

in a way that communicates that you are putting it between quotation marks. This broadcast

that you treat this somehow differently than just plain being married, that it is somehow

dot, dot, dot, pretend. I think one of the challenges we all face is normalizing same-sex marriage, and it would be a good idea to refer to Terry as my husband.

Period.

No decorations.

Just matter of fact.

It is a nuance, but I think significant one.

All the best, Eton.

Well, yeah, I do call him, you know, Terry, my husband. I've been saying that for a very long time. In all honesty, I am slightly putting it in italics or I was. I really think I was. For a long time, I was doing it with that sort of. I can't believe I get to call him my husband. I don't really feel like he's my husband. I'm not even sure what my husband is supposed to mean for us as gay men.

If you read my book The Commitment, which paused now to think about how fast things have changed and how rapidly things have changed.

When I came out to my mom, when I was 18, I wasn't just burdening her with mental images that it took her years to expunge.

Mom, I'm gay and she could just see dicks flying into every hole of mine.

I was telling my mother that I would never marry.

That was part of what coming out as gay men.

You would never get married.

Marriage was something that

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